All I had to do was look at this for five seconds and I’m not just teary eyed but SOBBING.
I don’t fucking know how people can have watched this movie and said Thor “didn’t feel enough” for Loki.
I’m going to say this once and then I don’t feel like arguing it anymore.
Thor loves Loki.
Loki loves Thor.
Is it extraordinarily complicated still? YES.
Does Loki also do things that are selfLESS for simultaneously selfISH reasons? YES.
Does Thor say and do things he doesn’t mean and fail to express himself well the majority of the time, leading to further misunderstandings? YES.
But guess what, that’s the REALITY of family and relationships. People who love each other make terrible mistakes by each other. Parents fuck up by their children and their children form codependent and abnormal attachments and fail to learn how to communicate. It HAPPENS. The affection still, for better or worse, EXISTS.
Once again, then, do they love each other? YES.
Then why didn’t Thor mourn Loki longer, you ask. Why didn’t he bury the body or transport it home? Why was Loki banking on him not taking the body?
First of all, logistics. He can’t carry a dead body around when he’s still protecting Jane and trying to stop Malekith and the Convergence. Secondly, it’s not only part of Thor’s personality to be stoic under duress, it’s also part of Asgardian culture that masculine traits such as so-called “emotional resilience” (translate: stuffing down the natural grieving process and acting “fine”) be glorified and relied upon.
Also can we please remember that Thor ALREADY mourned and suffered through Loki’s death ONCE? It’s actually quite normal for people to distance themselves from a psychological trigger for emotional agony when a trauma is RECURRENT. He just lost his mother, he’s threatened with losing his (already aging and half senile) father and homeland, and now here goes his brother and best friend. Perhaps I speak out of experience here, but in the middle of massive physical, psychological, and emotional duress, MANY PEOPLE GO INTO SURVIVAL MODE, WHICH IS TO SET ASIDE THE EMOTIONS THAT ARE MORE APPROPRIATE IN THE MOMENT TO JUST PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER. Thor is NOT infallible or invincible. He HAD to distance himself from his brother’s death FOR THE TIME BEING. It was both a personal COPING MECHANISM AND a CULTURALLY CONDONED WAY OF DEALING WITH GRIEF BY WHICH THOR WAS CONDITIONED AND RAISED. Part of why Loki is thought so aberrational is that he is emotional, that he flings shit around his cell and screams and cries and ACTUALLY ACKNOWLEDGES his own emotional turmoil. Most Asgardians DON’T do that, Thor INCLUDED.
Still don’t believe me? I can provide still more evidence to support my claims.
- Think of Thor’s stoicism at Frigga’s funeral too. If you doubt his love for Loki, you can’t doubt his love for his mother. He didn’t even indulge himself in grief THEN.
- Remember the way Thor reacted to Loki actually getting him to laugh in that floating boat they took to Svartalfheim. Remember the choked up voice and pained expression when he said “I wish I could trust you”? That was Thor DESPERATE to lean on the one remaining person from his childhood, from a time of safety and happiness, a person he LOVED. And it is telling that around Loki, Thor was able to finally release his sorrow over Frigga. There IS a level of emotional trust there, and certainly love. Even Loki easily recognized it, and looked sad too, and made a commentary about “trusting his rage” that was, in an odd, dark way, a form of reassurance to a brother that he knew was suffering and needed him.
- The only time that Thor does cry in this movie and look purely anguished is in THIS SCENE right above. This scene ALONE makes it self evident that Thor still adores his baby brother, even against his better judgment. Christ, just LOOK AT HIS FACE. And don’t tell me his love was conditional upon Loki’s act of heroism. DO NOT tell me that. Thor’s feelings for Loki were there all along. It’s just that, tragically, it took Loki’s death to get Thor to recognize them HIMSELF, let alone express them. I think we can all agree Thor is an even worse communicator than Odin is.
- Thor’s face when Erik Selvig asked if Loki was “coming” and he said “Loki is dead.” Nuff said.
- Thor KEPT THIS PROMISE to Loki of “telling father,” even though Loki made it clear that what he did was for Frigga, Thor, and himself, and NOT Odin. (By the way that may be the frame, aside ALL of Loki’s facial expressions, that gets me the most. Thor’s desperation to look strong, that little nod at baby brother of “I’ve got this, I’ve got you, kiddo, I’ll make it right like I always do,” it kiled me to watch that nuance. Thor is desperate always to protect the ones he loves and nobody grieves harder than he does when he fails). Thor TOLD “Odin” that Loki
- could rule Asgard better than Thor ever would
- died honorably and heroically
- was an inspiration and a legacy for Thor himself to live by. If those aren’t words uttered both in love and admiration, I don’t know what is.